Tranquility in Chaos: Control What You Can, Accept What You Can’t


The ancient philosophy of Stoicism has seen a revival in recent years for its practical tools to find tranquillity and resilience in difficult times. One of the core tenets of Stoicism is to focus our efforts on what we can control rather than expending energy trying in vain to control external events or other people. Much frustration and suffering arise from attempting to control things that are ultimately outside of our power.

The Stoics recognised that the only things truly under one’s control are our judgments, perspectives and actions. Everything else – health, wealth, reputation, even life itself – can potentially be taken away at any time. Yet very often people torment themselves trying to make others think, feel or act a certain way. Or they obsess over obtaining some external circumstance or achievement.

Stoicism proposes a different approach – accept what you cannot control, and put your energy into cultivating your own wisdom, character and virtue. Be a force for good in the world, without demanding certain results. This takes practice, as the natural tendency is to desperately avoid discomfort and grasp after what we want. But nuanced acceptance paired with focused action can lead to a steadier sense of peace and purpose. One can work to improve conditions while coming from a place of non-attachment.

This perspective is profoundly empowering. One’s happiness and character need not be contingent on other people or external events. Past and future fade in importance next to the present moment. Stoicism offers tools to develop an inner tranquillity, while engaging constructively with the outer world.

The philosophy rose to prominence in ancient Greece and Rome, influencing many great thinkers and leaders. While some of its tenets may seem stark, many modern figures have highlighted its practicality for finding calm and purpose even in chaotic times. As one measure of growing interest, books on Stoicism now proliferate, making its timeless wisdom on resilience relevant to a wide modern audience.