The death of a loved one brings profound grief that can be overwhelming. Bereavement leaves us grappling with emotions like denial, anger, fear and deep sadness. Stoicism, with its focus on accepting what we cannot control, offers a framework to process loss in a healthy way. By managing our perceptions, judgments and actions, we can slowly rebuild life with meaning after tragedy.

A core Stoic teaching is differentiating what is in our control from what is not. The death of someone dear is never in our control, much as we wish we could prevent it. Stoicism suggests releasing regrets over the unchangeable past, and avoiding anxiously imagining how things could have been. Instead, we focus only on the present moment. Each day offers small choices: to connect with others, practice self-care, grieve mindfully. Over time, these small steps move us forward.

Rather than fight intense emotions, Stoicism suggests acknowledging them with calm acceptance. We hold them compassionately, without judgment. This helps emotions run their natural course rather than becoming obsessive or destructive. We process grief in stages, allowing each feeling its place.

While the acute pain of early bereavement fades, a sense of loss often endures. Here Stoicism advises limiting fantasies about how the departed would act or advise. Since they are gone, lingering attachment only prolongs suffering. To honour loved ones, we carry on their legacy by living virtuously.

Though it may feel like life has fractured, meaning and wholeness can emerge in time. We begin reforming routines, pursuing passions, helping others. By managing our minds and actions with wisdom, gradually we build around the loss. The void remains, but so do memories, growth and purpose. Each day can honour what came before.

With radical acceptance, clear intention and small steps, the Stoic tools for resilience help us live on after tragedy. Through grief, we touch our core humanity.

Though it may not feel like it now, you will endure. Hold close the happy memories. Find calm in each new day. Be gentle with yourself – grief is a process. Seek support from loved ones. Honour the departed by living meaningfully. Joy exists alongside sorrow. You will laugh again one day. For now, breathe deep. Take tiny steps forward. You are stronger than you know.